The Consummate Commitment-Phobic
Published: Mon, 07/29/13
If you work in counseling, it's a given that you're going to
attract people who have issues similar to your own. It's no surprise I
work with a lot of people who are afraid to commit.
I am happily married now, but I surely didn't waltz on up to the
alter. On the contrary! I am married to a retired Green Beret who
states plainly that marrying me was the most challenging thing he's ever done in his life.
This was the case, even though I wanted to marry him. I
don't know what to tell you. I just balk at marriage. I revolt. I
sabotage. I do anything under the sun to worm out of that, and I'll tell
you how crazy this is.
I finally married my husband (some 25 years after meeting him), about five years ago. I
was happy every single day. We decided to get married a second time, in
church.
Now I am already married, right? This did not stop me from calling
the deacon the day before our 2nd wedding and calling it off! How
embarrassing, huh?
Well, I did do that. And then we had to call him back and tell him, "Never mind, Elsa is crazy. We'll be there tomorrow."
I understand just how panicked a person can be when it comes time to commit. I also know how difficult this is to overcome.
There are
three main types of commitment-phobia. I have all three of them! It may
have taken me my entire life, but I resolved this now and I can teach
you how to overcome it as well.
This is such a common problem that I devoted two sections to it in my Master Class -
SECTION 3: Tackling Commitment Phobia, Part 1: Sagittarius
SECTION 4: Tackling Commitment Phobia, Part 2: Aquarius And Virgo
SECTION 4: Tackling Commitment Phobia, Part 2: Aquarius And Virgo
If you want to navigate this with a hard-won map in hand, check it out!
Have a great day!
Elsa P